Friday, March 27, 2009
hmm. well got some news from my babe, about my bestie. haizz, im very worried for ____ right now.
i know, i cannot force ____ to do anyting that is against his/her willingness.
sometimes, things get complicated when, you want to say out your thoughts but you are afraid that you might hurt the other party.
therefore, in order not to hurt their feelings, we choose to keep our mouth shut and just see as time passes.
unfortunately, when the time came, he/she will blame you for not giving advise in advance.
it's like a no wins situation.
1..giving advise now, and he/she will get hurt
2.not giving advise, and he/she will get mad for not giving advise
which should i do then?
keeping quiet or just be the bad-guy now and believe the '" it's for his/her own good" sentence?
maybe to him/her, i may not be the right person to turn for advise. but at least, i did offer my personal opinion, for you to consider.
me, as your bestie, dont want to see you get hurt by some irresponsible person out there...
i love you, and i care for you. i just don't want you to get hurt, that's all! i've been through, what you're currently going through. maybe, from the experience, i don't want you to be drifted anymore farther... i want you to be in a stable situation and think carefully of your future. i don't want you to get distracted.
all i advise to you is to just, stay low and be wary of his/her actions. he/she maybe just taking advantage of your current situation, your vulnerability state to approach you. i don't want to see what had happen to me, to happen to you. not all people are very trustworthy... wolves in sheep's clothing...
everyones knows your weakness, to easily believe his/her words... all i want to say is that... you can believe his/her promises or words but not to the extent that you lost your own stand of belief.
don't want you to suffer later in the day.
i know, i can be naggy... but all i want is for you to be safe and not to be hurt by those irresponsible persons that you believe to be true. i'm trying to be a very good friend here, by giving you advise. i know i can't force you to listen and act to my advise...
i just hope in the day to come, you won't be coming to me in tears and says
" i should have listen to your advise" or " you should warn me earlier!"
i don't mind being the shoulder for you to cry on, but i'm not sure if i can be calm enough to console you, because, i have already advise you in the very first place. if not heeding my advise is what you choose, then you bear the consequences yourself.
i'm not running away from my responsibility as friend, i just want you to awake from
your-thought-to-be-a-beautiful-dream-that-turn-out-to-be-a-nightmare!
i'm sorry if my word are harsh but if this can get you to heed my advise, im ok to be the badguy here!
hoping for the best for you:JUU
4:37 PM
